Wednesday, April 22, 2015
Extended Growing Pains
It's easy to sustain, to keep on keeping on in our cookie cutter lives. That doesn't mean we're happy or fulfilled. It means that we are paying the bills...we are living the lives that everyone else expected of us. For those of us, like me, who didn't hit the road prior to marriage due to: 1) lack of information (it was 1980, folks!!) or confidence, 2) being in love, or 3) following the timeline rules; it's way overdue and I've endured years of sustaining. The thing is, I didn't see it while I was in it. Just like I didn't see how controlled I was by my ex-spouse until months after we were separated!! Once divorced, kids grown, money in the bank...travel became my priority. Travel was where I was happy and ever changing...ever learning...at peace! I learned where my future lay. Wouldn't you do what you could to pursue that?
I was never a camper....simply a travel addict. In preparation for my eventual escape overseas (once my old, sweet Lillie had passed), I'd bought a light weight, 2-man tent. That happened only 4 months before I was laid off! How odd is that?? Once I did a solo camp trip a few months later, I was hooked!! That alone, to me, was WEIRD!! Timing, I've come to learn, really is everything!
Meeting people is a major highlight of my life! It's become much more interesting in my current lifestyle
Between camping, some of us stay with friends, family, or couchsurf (stay in the home of strangers) for free. Those of us on the road have been accused of being "moochers", "freeloaders", or worse. So I wonder, exactly what are these people doing when they visit friends and family and have to spend the night there? Are they mooching? Freeloading? Well, I guess it's "different".
Creature comforts are what you make of them. Since being out of my tent, I'm in luxury with my lil Shasta!! I don't have a shower so I've learned that four days is my limit to go without. Most days I'm not doing much to generate sweat so it's mostly an oily hair thing!! The thing is, we've all gotten used to water pressure, hot water, and accessibility to getting clean...but the bottom line is we don't need anything but water and a little soap. A solar shower (a bag that you put water in and set out so the sun can warm the water up) has no water pressure but it'll do in a pinch!! And please don't disregard the portable potty!! I'd be in big trouble...or flashing folks...without it!
I do understand that my friends and family worry about my safety, whether in a tent or in a camper. I also know that they haven't done what I'm doing nor have they walked in my shoes. Put me in front of a television and I scare myself at how many hours I can watch it non-stop!! THAT scares me!! Put me back in the bar drinking and dancing 4 to 6 nights a week!! Yes, that scares me...well, frankly, I couldn't hang that often anymore!! Throw me back in the gray, windowless office with other miserable people. That depresses me!! I read more, the sky is my church, and though I'm currently out of shape, I'm spiritually stronger. It is also amazing how much respect that I get from my peers being a woman, traveling solo!
Selling and giving away everything, storing only family history, leaving everyone and everything close to me, doing what I've never done before in possible dangerous situations...I respect ME! I don't need anyone's approval for my lifestyle choice. I don't need their respect either, though I'm saddened that it's even an issue. What I do require is self-respect, dignity, pride, peace, and happiness. If that's not good enough for others, then I will accept that...I accept that they are in another place. A place I've been before. A comfortable place...with boundaries...safe for raising a family...a place of stability...a place where the only change is in conjunction with a growing family, neighborhood, or career. A box that I no longer fit in. A place full of fears.
There is nothing wrong with any of those things, I've lived them. Now? If not respect, then try to accept, allow, bless, endure, praise, or watch like a horror film my adventures. That is what my life is now, an adventure! Why would you want me to live anything but?